How to Relate Well to Each Type

The ticket to relate well to each type is to relate and communicate in ways that are familiar to the type. Doing that helps you develop those qualities in yourself, so everyone wins!

With 1s, be honest, live your values, work hard to be a model yourself for what you believe in. Notice your own selfish traits and attempt to go beyond them. Don't be critical of a 1, as they are so critical of themselves. Instead give permission to a 1 to be more self oriented and that mistakes are a normal way of learning.

With 2s, give to them without asking, be positive, be personal, be appreciative. Encourage them to share their needs more directly and encourage them to be more self loving and not overly giving to those who don't respond to their giving.

With 3s, support their goals. Set goals for yourself, have a to-do list and start acting. Be positive, can-do and go into action. Have a vision of where you are heading. You can do anything if you set your mind and body to it!

With 4s, listen to them without offering advice, unless asked. Realize they are passionate and personal so be passionate and personal. Go for depth, intensity, beauty and don't hold back your feelings. Stay engaged, don't withdraw. Set limits and be loving if needed.

With 5s, don't overwhelm them with trivial information. Be objective, think before you talk and don't interrupt their process without asking permission. Summarize without being redundant. Talk about subjects they are interested in.

With 6s, be honest. Give them as much information as possible about things that concern them. Plan in advance to solve potential problems. Be prepared. Ask them what they need to be secure. Work as a team.

With 7s, be fun and positive. Don't overly complain or focus on worse case scenarios. Realize 7s can go from 1 thing to another so help them stay on target. Focus on the lighter side of life and think of options. Anything can be solved.

With 8s, be direct and bold. Speak up. Say what you think. Indirectness is awful for an 8. Trust that some differences and conflict sometimes can be a plus rather than a minus. Be passionate. Go for what you want and support them to make things happen.

With 9s, communicate in a peaceful tone. Don't take advantage of their easygoing nature. Support them to be direct, action oriented. Help them clarify what they want.