Let Go of Ego

Much of our suffering is due to our ideas around getting what we want or not. You may get something you want - money, relationship, a trip, a client, a smile from someone - and equally you may not get what you want long term or in the moment. Even if you get what you want, you may lose it or fear losing it or certainly it changes a lot. Can you live more in a place that's it's ok either way? to have what you want or to not have what you want - so there is less suffering caused with less attachment to an outcome. There's nothing wrong with setting goals and winning but if your sense of self and esteem is banked on the outcome, you will go up and down like a yo-yo. Maybe we are all more than an individual self - more connected to everything around us and can relish in the experience of life itself - enjoying ours and others' triumphs and sharing in the downs of life too - something beautiful just in the process of living - so much we have in common with less need for isolation. Maybe we live so much in a culture of individuality that lends itself to competition, fear of loss or even greed, that it's hard to see what we have in common, what we can share and gain from each other. The fact that we have a body and mind that change all the time and that our individuality in the form of a body changes permanently at some point, can remind us that we have so more common than apart. Striving for an image or goals is fine but stressful if we live in the future, hoping to be "something" to identify with to be ok. Maybe okness exists now and there is nothing to "strive" more, or at least anxiously strive for. Effort is fine and wonderful and it's great to accomplish things but is the enjoyment in the process itself or in living for an okness in the future? Who are you? An individual or the spacious awareness and love that that individuality resides in? Are you in charge of your individuality? Who is living you? Is there really an individual or a miraculous beingness and love that is animating your body to breathe itself, pumps its heart and provide it creativity to enjoy life. Are you the energy behind your uniqueness? Maybe you are the miracle energy and your individuality is just a beautiful by-product.